Engracia Gill; January 2017 I was watching a romantic comedy, “Blind Date” on Netflix this last weekend. The movie happens to actually be a French movie. The story, of course, applied the classic formula of “boy meets girl, boy/girl breaks up with boy/girl and boy/girl make up and are happily together forever more”. This movie […]
Disentangle from Hard Emotions with Your Partner
The next time you get into a spat with a loved one, be it your child, your spouse or your parent, you might remember the three S,S,S for soft, simple and slow! When caught in the tangle of a disagreement, we, human being, resort to hard emotions. It is the way we are wired, we […]
Lifting the Dark Shadow of the “Locker Room” Behavior
It can happen anywhere… on the bus, in church. It can happen with anybody… a teacher, a boss, an uncle… It can be a wandering hand or a naked stare at our chest… I had an experience recently and it caught my heart. I belong to a woman’s choir, a kind of “Red Tent” gathering […]
Catch it before it is too late: CPR for couples
Is it possible to revive the heart of a marriage just like you can revive a heart that does not beat? It is possible. Timing, attunement and openness are all qualities that become essential in restoring vitality into a relationship in trouble. Just as with CPR, timing is essential. With CPR, a heart stops and […]
The Blame Game
Resisting the blame game is important for healthy relationships. So, mastering the resistance of blame is crucial for interactions with others. Yet, it can take a lot of practice. The result, however, is freedom and joy that comes from your internal ability to control yourself, which is far more rewarding than the blame that leaves […]
