How to manage conflict successfully is a skill that can make or break a marriage and is therefore extremely important. The good news is that we can learn successful conflict resolution. “It takes two to tango” so when one partner moves into conflict management, the other usually follows or can be coaxed into following… Couples […]
Conflict: A Door to Greater Intimacy
The secret to a good partnership, any partnership, be it a marriage, an enduring lifelong friendship or a business partnership, is to capture the opportunity for greater understanding through the door of conflict. My thirty-year-old son told me the other day, “Relationships are hard, Mom. While you and Dad had conflict in your relationship and […]
Hollywood and the Dance of False Intimacy
Engracia Gill; January 2017 I was watching a romantic comedy, “Blind Date” on Netflix this last weekend. The movie happens to actually be a French movie. The story, of course, applied the classic formula of “boy meets girl, boy/girl breaks up with boy/girl and boy/girl make up and are happily together forever more”. This movie […]
Disentangle from Hard Emotions with Your Partner
The next time you get into a spat with a loved one, be it your child, your spouse or your parent, you might remember the three S,S,S for soft, simple and slow! When caught in the tangle of a disagreement, we, human being, resort to hard emotions. It is the way we are wired, we […]
Lifting the Dark Shadow of the “Locker Room” Behavior
It can happen anywhere… on the bus, in church. It can happen with anybody… a teacher, a boss, an uncle… It can be a wandering hand or a naked stare at our chest… I had an experience recently and it caught my heart. I belong to a woman’s choir, a kind of “Red Tent” gathering […]