Despite being in love with someone, long-term relationships can feel stale after years together. It is a harsh truth many people deal with at one point or another. The fresh, new chemistry you and your partner experienced in your first few months of dating may have faded into the past, and your relationship begins to feel, well, boring.
The good news is that this can be changed. You can take steps to reignite the chemistry in a relationship so it feels like the honeymoon phase all over again. Interested in learning more? Keep reading.
Should you be concerned?
Surely, one of the first things you ask yourself when you realize you are bored in your relationship is: Should I be concerned? Is this a bad sign for the longevity of my relationship? The simple answer is no. There is a big difference between feeling bored in a relationship and feeling comfortable.
Take a moment to evaluate your feelings. Are you bored because you feel too comfortable in your relationship? Are you missing how your relationship felt when it was new? Try to pinpoint where your boredom is stemming from. This way you can begin to fix it.
Boredom is only a concern if both you and your partner do not have an interest in fixing these feelings. If you are both okay with letting your boredom and indifference linger, then it may be an indication of a bigger problem in your relationship.
Schedule a standing date night
Now that you have identified the root cause of your feelings, you can begin to address it in a way that works for both you and your partner. In a long-term relationship, you may have begun to neglect the exciting aspects of a partnership, like date night.
Consider scheduling a standing date night every week. It doesn’t need to be anything fancy necessarily. Simply dedicating time to one another should do the trick. Cook a fancy meal or take a nice walk in the park. This is a great opportunity to get back in touch with your partner and their feelings.
Plan out small surprises for your partner
Excitement is all in the little things. Everyone loves a surprise, and it is certain to remind your partner how much you care. Leave love notes to your partner or surprise them with their favorite snacks. Love is in the details.
Don’t take everything so seriously! Relationships and love are supposed to be fun. Reintroduce some of the excitement you once had by goofing around together and talking about fun, light topics.
Additionally, the next time your partner does something that irritates you (because trust me, it will happen!), ask yourself if their actions are truly upsetting or if it is something that can be laughed off. Keep it light and fun, like the early days of your relationship.
Spice it up
Feelings of boredom in the bedroom should also not be ignored! While it may be embarrassing to admit, your sexual relationship is just as important as your emotional relationship.
Have a discussion with your partner to see if there are any unfulfilled desires. It will make you both feel more wanted and desired, therefore alleviating your boredom.
Don’t be afraid to get help
If you and your partner both want to fix your feelings of boredom, do not be ashamed to ask for help from a professional. Couples’ counseling is a great option to work through issues you may be facing in your relationship. At the end of the day, you need to work toward eliminating boredom, and a professional might be the best person to help you with this.
I specialize in helping couples work through rough spots and am more than willing to help you out, too. Get in touch with me today to start the path toward a healthier, happier relationship.