The Blame Game

Resisting the blame game is important for healthy relationships. So, mastering the resistance of blame is crucial for interactions with others. Yet, it can take a lot of practice. The result, however, is freedom and joy that comes from your internal ability to control...

The Kindness Bell for Despair

Three years ago, a friend’s 21-year old son died of heart failure in his sleep. My friend immediately dove into a well of despair. Upon hearing of her son’s passing, I reached out with the “kindness bell,” even though we had been estranged for a couple of years.  I...

Love: the best stress buster!

When stressed by lab researchers, rats will bite other rats to dispel the pain of electrical shocks. What’s remarkable about that is how many mammal (and bird) species have the same reaction as humans do when stressed. While we may not go around biting other humans as...